Episode 39: Protect Yourself From Judgments

Good morning everyone, and welcome to NF Learning Lab, where together, we access our innate, iNtuitive wisdom as unique, self-valuing, and deeply Feeling women … and share who we are becoming in a safe, sensitive community.

Today, we begin exploring the third letter of our 16 personalities code, the F or the T. This letter captures our preference when it comes to making decisions before we move into action. The F stands for ‘feeling’ and the T stands for ‘thinking’, and of course, we all use both preferences at times, but as iNtuitive-Feeling type women, we have a greater comfort with Feeling.

As Feeling types, we look to personal information when we are faced with the need to make a decision. We consider how our choices will impact our own emotions, as well as the emotions of the people around us. On the other hand, Thinking types look to impersonal facts and objective principles when they are deciding what course of action to take. Of course, everyone has emotions about the decisions they make, and everyone applied Thinking to decision making. We all use Thinking for some decisions and Feeling for others. In fact, we might decide on something, based on our Feeling preference, and then test the decision by Thinking about what we might not have taken into account.

Here are some personal statements that we would expect to hear from Thinking types:

• I like to find the basic truth or principle to be applied, regardless of the specific situation involved.
• I like to analyze pros and cons, and then be consistent and logical in deciding.
• I try to be impersonal, so I won't let my personal wishes--or other people's wishes--influence me.
• I enjoy technical and scientific fields where logic is important. I notice inconsistencies.
• I look for logical explanations or solutions to most everything.
• I make decisions with my head and want to be fair.
• I believe telling the truth is more important than being tactful.
• Sometimes I miss or don't value the "people" part of a situation.
• I can be seen as too task-oriented, uncaring, or indifferent.

Here are some personal statements that we would expect to hear from Feeling types:

• I believe I can make the best decisions by weighing what people care about and the points-of-view of persons involved in a situation.
• I am concerned with values and what is the best for the people involved.
• I like to do whatever will establish or maintain harmony.
• In my relationships, I like to appear caring, warm, and tactful.
• I have a people or communications orientation.
• I am concerned with harmony and nervous when it is missing.
• I look for what is important to others and express concern for others.
• I make decisions with my heart and want to be compassionate.
• I believe being tactful is more important than telling the "cold" truth.
  Sometimes I miss seeing or communicating the "hard truth" of situations.
• I am sometimes experienced by others as too idealistic, mushy, or indirect.