Episode 10: Rethink ‘Doing’

Good morning everyone, and welcome to Sparkle School, where together, we access our innate, iNtuitive wisdom as unique and self-valuing women, and share who we are becoming in a safe, sensitive community.

In recent weeks, we’ve been exploring the bottom half of the You Are Here Map and the process of ‘becoming’ that is our focus there. Last week, we saw how when we choose to enter that self-reflective, ‘becoming’ world, we start to notice the ways in which we have not felt fully supported to own and fully utilize our innate fascination with self-reflection. We may have intuited, early in life, that we needed to “go along to get along,” in the Sensing-majority culture around us. For many of us, that meant staying quiet about much of what we saw and heard, or simply ‘knew’ iNtuitively. Instead, we learned to use our special intelligence to ‘perform’ to the Sensing standards that were imposed upon us in our families, schools, and other institutions. Many of us do that brilliantly, iNtuiting at every step how to gain approval from others who cannot readily see, nor appreciate, our iNtuitive gifts and talents.

When we first enter the bottom half of the You Are Here Map, in some area of life, we are challenged by the discomforts and discontents we must face, but we soon realize that our special powers of self-reflection constantly remind us ‘this is a test, this is only a test’. Many of us realize in our teen years, that we feel much better after a ‘good cry’, so we can accept the inevitability of cycling through tears and also grief, as part of healing and growing. We can also endure, and possibly even be fascinated by, the mixed thoughts and feelings that often follow grief. We are able to think of such a period of confusion and uncertainly as a signal that it may be time to enter into a cocoon state in the area of life we have been working with.

Today, we take a closer look at what it means for us, as iNtuitive-Feeling type women, to enter a cocoon state in some area of life. Like all women, we have been trained by our Sensing-majority culture, that when life challenges us, we ‘should’ get busy doing something … anything … to satisfy the outside world. But as iNtuitive-Feeling women, we have a silent ‘knowing’ inside, that being ‘productive’ externally is not our only option. We can be productive internally. We can heal the wounds we received in childhood as misunderstood, often invisible, little, iNtuitive girls. We can engage the wisdom of our evolving wise-woman selves, to grow ourselves up again. We can claim our super-power of iNtuition and trust it to guide us toward all of the possibilities of self that lie waiting for us if we can only look deeply within ourselves. And here, in Sparkle School, we have the supportive reflection of other women who are undertaking a similar journey to self. We are surrounded by virtual ‘mothers’ modeling for us, the way through chaos and confusion, into full self-identity and a kind of self-love endowed also with generosity of spirit toward others. Let’s move on to our journal prompts to learn more.